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Explain to your children the reality of the existence of Santa Claus
One day or another the fateful moment will come when your child will begin to have doubts about the existence of Santa Claus. If as a rule, until the age of 4, all children remain convinced that Santa Claus exists, once the age of reason has been reached - which corresponds to entry to CP - they can begin to demonstrate skepticism since their share of the imaginary tends to regress in favor of the real. No need to be alarmed or to evade the question, like other existential questions, the discovery of this reality is essential to their learning of the "things of life". Predicting when this conversation will take place is difficult, but planning your response strategy helps provide an explanation when the time comes that doesn't spoil the Christmas spirit.
Why should we let the child take the first step
If some educators like Maria Montessori say that letting children believe in Santa Claus is to abuse their trust, in reality, if someone firmly believes in something, it is useless to try at all costs to do so. listen to reason on pain of rushing him. Some children start to express doubts quite early in their life, others on the contrary, do not ask any questions despite pressure from classmates or siblings. Each child develops at his own pace and must be respected. However, if he comes to you to ask for an answer, then he is ready to accept the possibility that Santa Claus does not exist. Therefore, children need to hear explanations from their parents to be comforted in their ideas. And just because a child knows Santa Claus doesn't exist, doesn't mean they'll lose interest in the magic of the holidays. On the contrary, this moment of revelation is just one more step in its development. He will feel more responsible for being aware of the "secret" and will even take pleasure in perpetuating the myth among the youngest.
A gentle announcement
When the child engages in a conversation about it, you can turn the question back to him first, if only to stimulate his deductive mind and explore with him the veracity of the clues he has in his possession. For example, he may tell you that he finds it strange that Santa Claus still manages to place gifts under the tree when you don't have a fireplace or how can Santa Claus be in several shopping malls in at the same time while working hard on the preparation of the presents ... By listing his proofs, there is a good chance that a click will occur in his head and that ultimately your role is limited to validating his reasoning. In any case, the child must understand gently. Don't skip the steps. If he asks for explanations on such and such a thing, enlighten him. And don't ridicule him. Take the time to respond calmly while letting him lead the conversation. Thus, he will not feel frustrated or betrayed and will even gain more confidence in himself, satisfied with the logic of his mind!
Perhaps also his doubts are simply unfounded and if the child asks you the question, it is because of the pressure exerted by his peers. Either way, if he is not insistent or if he does not show great conviction about his perplexity, letting him mature his thinking further may remain the best solution.
Santa Claus is a symbol
Instead of supporting your child that Santa Claus doesn't exist, you can try another approach as well. Indeed, we must keep in mind that letting your child cultivate his imagination is in no way synonymous with letting him live in a lie. Just because Santa Claus isn't a being made of flesh and blood doesn't mean he doesn't exist. So there is no reason to express guilt or to want to bring the child back to reality at all costs. Indeed, for everyone, Santa Claus is a kind of symbol, a myth or a metaphor of Christmas which makes him inseparable from this warm and special atmosphere. It represents the kindness and generosity proper to these festivities. Adults themselves sometimes like to believe in Santa Claus since he brings back happy memories of childhood, not to mention that he was a major player in our development and in a way contributed to building us as we are. are today.